The Privileged Position of a Wife

Take your Bible and turn with me to Colossians 3. We are going to continue our series this morning entitled, “Christ in the Common.” This study is a practical look at how Jesus intersects with everyday living. The goal of this study is to shore up our Christian living by going back to the fundamentals of how we are to live the Christ life.

Our passage today is one verse, Colossians 3:18 and it is written to wives about the privileged duty of submission in marriage.

My sisters, I know that you want to honor Jesus and I want you to leave this morning greatly encouraged with clarity and conviction and joy as you embrace your God-given calling. There is so much working against your ability to trust God in this area.

And so, we need to be fortified in embracing God’s wisdom on this matter. So, in our time together we are going to reorient our thinking about a wife’s role back to the simple truth contained in Scripture. We will be washed together in the Word.

This week we start off with wives. Husbands, parents and children… you will get yours next, but for now its “ladies first.”

It’s good to note upfront that submission is a challenging topic. Even as Christians who believe the Bible, we struggle at times with this teaching. Tim Challies writing recently about the topic of submission says:

I think the word “submit”… [is] a word some people really dislike, so instead of studying it and coming to a firm conclusion on its meaning, they choose not to believe in it at all.

… but don’t think I’m alone in cringing a little bit when I hear the term “submit,” especially in the context of marriage. When I hear “wives, submit to your own husbands,” something happens in my mind or heart that I don’t really like. I feel this immediate little bit of shame or rebellion or something. Submission feels old-fashioned. It feels like the kind of thing I may want to explain away…

 

But what’s happening? Why do I feel that little bit of rebellion or shame when I hear the word “submit?” I think it’s proof that we as Christians are constantly battling worldliness. Worldliness is allowing our minds and hearts to be shaped by messages that come from outside the Bible.

Friends this is a truth from the God who made us about how to have a thriving, Christ-honoring home life. And a functional home life isn’t our highest goal, the highest goal is exalting Jesus in everything that we do. But a healthy home life will be the product of husbands and wives fulfilling their God-given responsibilities.

Today’s message will be slightly different in that we are really doing a topical exposition. This entire sermon is about one short topic from one verse. My goal is to bring the components you need to understand how to live for Christ in the area of submission.

5 Truths for Understanding a Wife’s Privilege of Submission (Colossians 3:18)

  1. The unfashionable principle of submission
  2. The unmistakable priority of submission
  3. The universal problem with submission
  4. The unnatural power for submission
  5. The unexpected payoff from submission

Colossians 3:1–21—1 Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. 3 For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ, who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory. 5 Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry. 6 For it is because of these things that the wrath of God will come upon the sons of disobedience, 7 and in them you also once walked, when you were living in them. 8 But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices, 10 and have put on the new self who is being renewed to a true knowledge according to the image of the One who created him— 11 a renewal in which there is no distinction between Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave and freeman, but Christ is all, and in all. 12 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. 14 Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. 15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. 17 Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father. 18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them. 20 Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.

5 Truths for Understanding a Wife’s Privilege of Submission

  1. The unfashionable principle of submission

Let’s bring some clarity to this topic, shall we? As we always do we will start in the text before us…

Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

The call here is to be subject. Note first that the instruction here is not given to women universally as if Paul were calling women as a class to be subject to men. These are specific women, namely the ones who mark “M” for marital status on the paperwork at the doctor’s office. 

Paul says then, wives you are to come under your own husbands… for every married woman you have only one man that you relate to in this manner. It’s your man.

But what does it mean to be subject to? Well, the basic concept is not hard. ὑποτάσσω the word here translated be subject simply means to come under the authority of another.

Christ then calls a wife to yield her will to the headship of her husband. It means the husband is given the responsibility to lead, initiate, direct and make final decisions.

The wife then is to support her husband and follow his lead. This fits the role of a wife as her husband’s suitable helper (Genesis 3). Let’s take a moment to further clarify our explanation and flush it out a bit… 

Let’s begin with what biblical submission does not mean…

  • Biblical submission does not include yielding to sin (Shadrack, Mischach and Abednigo in the OT, the apostles when asked to stop preaching in Acts 4:19 we respectfully cannot submit to your request). If you are told to sin then you obey the higher authority, which is God.
  • Biblical submission does not mean you lose your voice. Proverbs 31:26—she opens her mouth in wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Godly women express themselves through speech, but it godly speech. Still warn, encourage, at times confront and exhort, with dignity and respect.
  • Biblical submission does not mean you exist merely to serve your husband. Marriage isn’t a master/servant relationship. We are talking about a one-flesh union where both partners exist for the other (Genesis 2, Ephesians 5) joint-heirs of the grace of life (1 Peter 3:7). Submission is about who is leading and who is following not one being the master and one being the servant.
  • Biblical submission does not mean a husband is given license for any kind abuse, or for pressuring his wife into his own personal preferences. Paul doesn’t men make your wives submit—the women are called to that. The men are called to lay down their lives for the wives.
  • Biblical submission does not mean less valuable or necessary in the marital relationship. Distinction, yes! That’s biblical. Superior and inferior? That is not biblical.
  • Biblical submission does not mean that you are passive or absolved of responsibility for your conduct. Wives are accountable to God for their own convictions. You are a huge influence in your home, so this is not a copout on responsibility.

What biblical submission does mean…

  • Biblical submission does mean you don’t have equal say (you aren’t co-presidents in the home). Hard one. You aren’t the one who calls the shots. Your role is to follow and support, not lead and direct.
  • Biblical submission does mean the impingement of your autonomy and independence (it is restrictive). Life is not longer like when you were single. Note: same for a husband as we will see next week (living according to knowledge).
  • Biblical submission does mean by definition means that you are going to have yield to things that you don’t agree with at times. Decisions that you would make another way.  Speaking frankly, submission isn’t really submission until it goes up against something you feel very strongly about. If you only joyfully submit when your husband agrees with what you want, then you are not a submissive wife. Submission is tested in the differences and the difficulties.
  • Biblical submission does mean that you genuinely yield in your heart. Not nagging, not manipulating, not pressuring or convincing, not complaining, not becoming bitter or resentful. External submission with a resentful heart is not submission.
  • Biblical submission does mean that you demonstrate respect for your husband out of respect for God, even if he isn’t personally respectable. Not only coming under, but honoring the role.

Well what then are some examples of a husband leading and a wife submitting? 

This includes everything from the big decisions: How many children do we have? Where do we live? How should we choose to educate our children? What church should we go to? When and where and how we serve in the church. How to navigate certain relationships. Whether or not the wife works outside the home. What the focus will be in the home.

Down to mundane details such as what our calendar should like in terms of how we prioritize our time and our God-given responsibilities. That sounds pretty comprehensive! Indeed. You are now one-flesh, and operate as a unit working together, each in their proper role.

Well this is unfashionable. Society scoffs at this teaching. It is immediately labeled misogyny, or chauvinism or old-fashioned. When we are confusing basic God-designed realities such as binary gender roles, it is no wonder that this instruction would be caught up as a causality as well.

But God says this crucial to a thriving home. 

Now that we have established briefly the principle of submission, what it is and what it isn’t, let’s consider…

5 Truths for Understanding a Wife’s Privilege of Submission

  1. The unfashionable principle of submission
  2. The unmistakable priority of submission

This instruction is the priority commandment for a wife. 

Of course, wives have other marital obligations. Paul tells Titus to encourage the reverent, older women to each the younger to love their husbands (Titus 2:4)… note: that is with an affectionate love philandros (phileo=love and andros=man; man-affection). Both husband and wife are told not to deprive the other of sexual intimacy (1 Corinthians 7:5) and to keep the marriage bed pure (Hebrews 13:14).

Second, if you are living as a Christian then you need less instruction in the specific roles of life. In other words, if you are spiritually thriving (Colossians 3:1-17) treasuring Christ, killing sin and modeling Christ in your daily life, then you don’t need a dozen instructions on being a wife you just need to apply the basics. There is a consistent and beautiful simplicity to the Christian life. 

All that being said, there is no escaping that this is a priority commandment. Paul has one instruction specifically to these Colossian wives and this is the one he chooses. By priority I mean that this is the most critical, most important, most challenging, most at stake whether it is followed or not.

And this is demonstrated throughout the New Testament when wives are addressed:

1 Peter 3:1—in the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands… 

Ephesians 5:22—wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord… 

And then older woman are to teach younger woman, among other things to…

Titus 2:3-5—older women… encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.

And so, we see that this is not merely a contemporary challenge. Furthermore, we can assume then that is an area that Satan will attack frequently and intensely, and there is a great deal at stake with this issue for God to highlight it so strongly as a priority.

Submission is universal

Can I offer you some encouragement on this? If you are feeling singled out, your calling is incredibly normal as the Christian. Other a wife’s relationship to her husband, submission is universal in the church. Just consider with me briefly some other occurrences of ὑποτάσσω (obey or submit) in the New Testament.

  • Submit to one another. Ephesians 5:21—Easily give up your own will. Be quick to do it. We are so selfish. This is just difficult. Doesn’t mean obey everybody but be willing to be the one to give up for the sake of another.
  • Submit to the government. 1 Peter 2:13—Obey and respect. Why the government? For the Lord’s sake. Because God put the government in authority over you. As a side note if you are someone who posts maligning things about the government you are sinning. Show respect for the God who put government there by your speech. Of course you can be critical, but do it in a way that honors Jesus.
  • Submit to church leaders. 1 Peter 5:5—younger men are to be submissive to the elders of the church. Peter urges the church to be submissive to their leaders. Come under their authority willingly and clothe yourselves in humility. Come under it… subject yourself to it. Hebrews 13:17—obey them, and if you don’t it comes with a warning of harming yourself.
  • Children submit to parents. Luke 2:51—Jesus did. Children at times your mom and dad may be hypocritical, they might be inconsistent and unclear and challenging to follow. You know what God calls you to for his sake? Submit to mom and dad as unto the Lord for it pleases him (Colossians 3:20).
  • Slaves submit to masters. 1 Peter 2:18, Titus 2:9—The instruction is to submit even to crooked and twisted masters.
  • Everyone submit to God. James 4:7—Seems obvious, but James has to say it. Come under his authority by submitting to his Word in obedience.
  • Believers submit to Christ. Ephesians 5:24—That’s a good one. That clarifies everything else. Jesus is our head—I’m not the head of the church. We are all subject to Him.

Do you see the collective weight and emphasis here? As Christians we are to be a submissive people. First we submit to our perfect Lord, and then to sinful humans to whom he has delegated authority.

Submission was unfashionable when Jesus was submissive to the Roman oppression and the masses wanted him to rise up against the government. It was unfashionable when Paul wrote these letters to the churches about their relationships with one another. It was unfashionable when Peter wrote his epistles. 

This principle is an unmistakable priority for the Christian, and then specifically in the arena of marriage, this is the priority commandment for a wife. It’s repeated the most and therefore is the most critical and the most attacked and the thing you need to be reminded of most. It’s an unmistakable priority.

5 Truths for Understanding a Wife’s Privilege of Submission

  1. The unfashionable principle of submission
  2. The unmistakable priority of submission
  3. The universal problem with submission

Submission is hard—the universal problem with submission is that we are being asked to yield what we want and think is best and humble ourselves to support another. But there are some areas that make submission in marriage challenging.

Satan and the world hate God’s design. 

Feminism as a movement has taught us that being submissive as a wife is demeaning or an injustice. Culture fosters the idea that independence is a desirable attribute. But that’s unbiblical for men or for women we are dependent upon Christ and one another.

Sin and abuse make this teaching difficult.

Certainly, both genders sin against one another, but chauvinism is an elitist attitude of men toward women. And it’s real. And then there is the reality of abuse and patriarchal teaching that abuses submission. Many husbands are not very respectable. Sin makes submission difficult. 

We don’t much like respecting and submitting to authority.

There is a weakness in each of hearts that doesn’t want to submit. Call it what it is: good, old-fashioned rebellion. It feels like our personal rights are being infringed upon and it ticks us off—who are you to tell me? 

It’s just rebellion. Remember what Paul said in Romans 7:7-8? “You know, I never really had much of a coveting problem until I understood that I wasn’t supposed to covet, and then bam, as soon as I learned the line I wasn’t supposed to cross, sin produced in me coveting of every kind. I didn’t want to cross the line until you said I couldn’t and now I do. Scary, we have an entire generation of disobedience people coming up and the fallout is going to be horrifying.

Every wife has to learn to submit to a man beset with weakness.

This is a toughie for sure. Listen, I’m not preaching this to you as someone who doesn’t understand these struggles. First of all I know your husbands pretty well. But seriousl I know this personally, well.

I can remember the exact sofa in a friend’s living room when a dear brother asked my wife to summarize in one word her thoughts on letting go and following my leadership. Her answer? Terrifying. 

Why? Because following a selfish leader is a scary thing to do. And in that season my wife had more than probable cause for distrust. I had a pattern of carelessness combined with dismissing concerns she would raise or burdens she would need carried.

Some of you as I’m preaching may have a list significant reasons that validate the conclusion that your husband is in fact, not a very good leader: mismanaged finances, poor decision-making, weak at long-term planning, undisciplined, lack of drive or initiative, patterns of selfishness, or an immature walk with the Lord.

What’s the temptation? To evaluate his leadership and determine when you should and should not follow his leadership. My dear friends, that is not submission—that is the very thing Paul is calling you not to do.

Well the universal problem with submission is that we are sinners. Authorities are sinful, and the submitters are sinful. Which is why we need God’s grace, which leads us to our fourth point…

5 Truths for Understanding a Wife’s Privilege of Submission

  1. The unfashionable principle of submission
  2. The unmistakable priority of submission
  3. The universal problem with submission
  4. The unnatural power for submission

Maybe this is an area of weakness for you. You’ve attempted to find joyful submission and can’t make progress. I hope this is an encouragement to you. The key to submission is trusting in Jesus by the power of his Spirit. 

You are going to leapfrog over your husband, so to speak.

This is awesome. A Christian wife finds meaning and purpose in submitting to her husband as worship to God. This is a God-centered view of submission. You stop evaluating in a natural way and begin to depend upon God. Let’s consider a passage in 1 Peter 3 together.

(1) In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2 as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 

Peter gives a specific situation: a Christian wife and an unbelieving husband… difficult circumstance, especially in first-century. An unbelieving husband would hate that his Christian wife rejected his gods, had her own social network outside the home in the church. Oftentimes it would become hostile. Very challenging.

So, what’s the instruction?

Win him over by preaching? Nagging? Pestering? Convincing? Arguing? Wearing him down? Pressuring? Manipulating? Complaining? No. You win him by demonstrating godliness. The text says won without a word by behavior.

Peter says in a situation like this you take your fears and your frustrations about your husband’s spiritual problems and you humble yourself before God and fix your eyes on Christ. You obey Christ. You submit to Christ and you trust the process he is working in you and in your husband. Look at a wife’s focus:

(3) Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 

Don’t use your body and external beauty as your main focus. But put on something imperishable. What’s the point? Beauty is fleeting. Just look at old photos—hair styles in the 90’s are gone… hopefully for good. Think of all that time spent getting those bangs to poof just right. Totally perishable. 

But instead beautify your inner life, which endures. How? Cultivate a gentle and quiet spirit. Very easy to understand. Godly women are meek, not self-important, and they are peaceable and quiet. That doesn’t mean they don’t speak, but rather they are restrained, measured, careful, under control and not dominant. 

Dominant women are not godly women. There is no favorable example of a domineering woman in Scripture. Peter says maturity is in godly restraint.

Dearest sisters please hear me on this. You must reject the lies that Satan and your flesh and this world tell you and replace it with the truth of God that the inner beauty of a submissive heart. Peter says it is precious in the sight of God. Is this your focus? Do you believe this is desirable? Do you want to be precious in God’s eyes?

For a wife in this situation, this is your opportunity to grow in trusting your Savior. He loves you. He cares for you. He is working in you. And it will bear fruit in your walk with the Lord. Look, it’s right here in the text:

(5) For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 

Here it is again… worship: the ones who hoped in God. Do you trust God enough to follow your husband’s leadership? That’s where the battle really lies. Your heart will tell you: I could do a better job, this is a bad decision, I don’t like this.

Now I know what some of you are thinking: “pastor… you don’t know my husband very well. Do you know what is gonna happen if I let him lead? We will be in debt. We will have chaos. We will not be spiritually going in the right direction, or certainly not fast enough. I got a slow one.”

Let me ask it this way, have you considered the alternative? What happens if you go against God’s design? Have you thought about all the things that could go wrong by doing that?

Consider Saul as a helpful illustration. Samuel the prophet told Saul the king of Israel to utterly wipe out the Amalekites. No one was to be spared. And in the course of battle Saul determined that he wouldn’t destroy king Agag or the best of the animals. His excuse was that he was just trying to honor the Lord with sacrifice.

Samuel indicted him:

1 Samuel 15:22—Samuel said, “Has the LORD as much delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed than the fat of rams.

How does that work here? This is applicable when a husband isn’t doing a great spiritual leader and so the wife takes matters into her own hands. Look, God is not pleased if you step outside of his design, regardless of how spiritual your reasons might be.

Your options are either to trust that God is powerful to work in the situation and you submit to Him, or you take matters into your own hands. That’s really the issue. You are helping God from a mistake He has made because you know better.

Perhaps you are thinking, I don’t know about that one. That sounds pretty out there.

(6) just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

What’s the threat? Fear. 

Do you believe that you could do a better job leading? Do you long to control? Does your husband’s leadership or lack of it bother you? Listen, you must wrestle your thought-life on this one and recognize that if you feed these thoughts you will inevitably dishonor Jesus Christ.

Psalm 27:1—The LORD is my light and my salvation; Whom shall I fear? The LORD is the defense of my life; Whom shall I dread?

When you view submission as worship it will begin to change things. Suddenly what used to be intolerable becomes an opportunity to sacrificially submit to God and glorify him. You can consider it a privilege and a calling. Look at the text… this isn’t my wisdom, this is how the Bible frames up submission:

Colossians 3:18—as is fitting in the Lord.

Ephesians 5:22—Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 

This means that you view your submission as being to Jesus. And you do this knowing that Jesus submitted himself. And you have the Spirit of God and the mind of Christ empowering your submission.

Just think with me for a moment:

John 3:16—For God so loved the world that he gave His only begotten Son… it was the Father who gave the son. John 3:17—For God did not send his son into the world to judge the world but that the world might be saved through him.

Philippians 2:8—Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient…

Hebrews 5:8—Although He was a Son, He learned obedience from the thing which He suffered…

Jesus is not calling you to do anything that he has not already done as he perfectly submitted to the Father and now give you the privilege of submitting to Him.

Wives it isn’t the worthiness of your husband that compels your joyful submission, but it is the worthiness of Jesus. Do you see how closely Paul puts these two ideas together for us? as is fitting in the Lord.

The power for submission comes from a conviction that God can be trusted, and a willingness to depend upon Christ for the power to do it.

5 Truths for Understanding a Wife’s Privilege of Submission

  1. The unfashionable principle of submission
  2. The unmistakable priority of submission
  3. The universal problem with submission
  4. The unnatural power for submission
  5. The unexpected payoff from submission

Submission has amazing benefits. As we remind our kids all the time. God blesses obedience. The way of the transgressor is hard. Submission elicits the favor and protection of God. It’s better to submit and have things go poorly than to disobey. By far.

1 Peter 2:13, 19— 13 Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human institution, whether to a king as the one in authority… 19 For this finds favor, if for the sake of conscience toward God a person bears up under sorrows when suffering unjustly.

How does that apply here? You have to let go of the desire to control the outcome and the future and instead concern yourself with faithfulness in your heart to God. 

What about when I submit and it goes poorly. “If I hadn’t have gone along with your plan then xyz unpleasant circumstance wouldn’t have happened.” Then you must coach your heart and remind yourself that the measuring stick is not how well something did or didn’t pan out. Rather retrain your thinking that you have the favor of God for obedience.

This isn’t a call to be spineless or lack convictions. This isn’t a call to let your husband do all of your thinking for you. This isn’t a call to neglect your vital role in home and in the church and in the world. You will personally give an account to Christ for all of those things. But you support rather than lead and you trust that is God’s very best plan for you.

Freedom from the pressure and anxiety of the burden of leadership. 

Some of you women have undue anxiety and pressure in your life because you have a pattern of stepping outside the divine protection that God has provided by attempting to control situations and bear burdens you were not meant to bear.

You can pray all you want for God to help you not be anxious, but if you are unwilling to trust him and submit to his rule in your life mediated through your husband then you aren’t going to find relief until you let go and yield to God by faith.

Remember that submission is a gift not a punishment. Before sin Adam was given oversight in the Garden and naming the animals (Genesis in 2:15, 19). Then God creates Eve, out of Adam because he needed a suitable helper to carry out his God-given responsibilities in life. It completed him. He was lacking without Eve.

Embrace that role as a gift.

Spiritual usefulness in your family (you will be a grace)

You want to bless your family? Joyfully submit to authority.

A note to you mothers. Whatever you work to train your children in regarding submission to your parental authority you will undo by a lack of respect and submission to your husband. You will actually undermine and tear down your progress by your example. 

Proverbs 14:1—The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.

If you are disrespectful of authorities—the way you speak of the government, or church leadership, or your own husband, you are tearing down your home with your own hands and the Proverbs teach.

To fathers as well… if you model a lack of respect for your incompetent managers and church leaders and the governmental and undermine the authorities you are called to submit to, there will be a reckoning. When your children advance in years and you can’t trace back their lack of respect for your authority, you will be reaping what you have sown.

Model what it looks like to revere God and trust him in your submission.

Qualifies you for usefulness in the church. 

Women who disciple others are to be reverent and have demonstrated faithfulness in this arena. How in the world can you teach other woman how to be subject to their husbands if you haven’t fought that battle in your heart in the grace of Christ? You can’t. 

Harmony and fruitfulness in marriage and home.

You will be a tremendous asset to your husband and your life in Christ together will thrive. Men, you must lead, and wives you must support. Don’t expect any earthly relationships or parenting or ministry in the church to thrive if this isn’t correct—you are constraining usefulness. 

This is a fundamental for a godly wife, and it is a rich blessing for her and her husband and her children. I encourage you to embrace.

Wives I’d encourage you at some point soon to honest ask your husband and ask your children how you are doing in this area. Where you are not respectful or submissive? Take their truthful responses to heart. And then in the grace of Christ repent. And get help. You need encouragement in this area.

Just remember husbands it’s your turn next week.

A word to husbands… you can make it easier to come under your leadership—listening, serving, sacrificing, living in an understanding way, bringing along in your decision-making process… very often a Christian woman struggling in this area is struggling due to your poor leadership. Kind, consistent, godly leaders are easier to submit to than selfish or neglectful ones.

More on that next week.